tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4181203705533916900.post9151103324049230253..comments2024-02-29T10:51:54.651-08:00Comments on Invincible Spring: When you look at it like thatSadiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14325203869605294768noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4181203705533916900.post-18877310850639447762013-04-11T03:21:48.753-07:002013-04-11T03:21:48.753-07:00Thanks for your kind words and support Lauren. The...Thanks for your kind words and support Lauren. There is so much more in terms of emotional and medical (and for many, financial) committment than anyone realizes, and you're so right - the isolation of realizing others can't understand your struggle is very difficult. I hope you're continuing to feel some healing. Sadiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14325203869605294768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4181203705533916900.post-49047509032541751282013-04-11T03:19:19.127-07:002013-04-11T03:19:19.127-07:00Thanks for the encouragement! I can only hope that...Thanks for the encouragement! I can only hope that my experience might be as starightforward as yours. I'm glad you've had more good news :)Sadiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14325203869605294768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4181203705533916900.post-32676827531342670162013-04-11T03:18:28.757-07:002013-04-11T03:18:28.757-07:00I guess denial and reckless hope do have a lot to ...I guess denial and reckless hope do have a lot to do with it, Of course no one wants to contemplate IVF as an eventuality, but as I said, my desire for a living baby totally outweighs any concerns I have at this point. Thank you for sharing your journey and making it all feel more managable. And I agree, just the feeling of moving forward is a big emotional boost.Sadiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14325203869605294768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4181203705533916900.post-55837450302422368152013-04-11T03:16:06.154-07:002013-04-11T03:16:06.154-07:00Thanks for your thoughts, and although it's no...Thanks for your thoughts, and although it's not a fun thing to be contemplating, I feel heartened and less scared having had the wonderful opportunity to follow stories like yours. Thanks for being there.<br />And yes, we are very lucky to be living in a part of the country that will cover this expense. The UK healthcare system has a terrible 'postcode lottery', but for once fortune is on our side! Sadiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14325203869605294768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4181203705533916900.post-45447087659590315932013-04-10T22:37:54.086-07:002013-04-10T22:37:54.086-07:00I, too, am sorry that IVF is lurking in the wings ...I, too, am sorry that IVF is lurking in the wings for you. I have a friend whose 6th IUI just failed. She and her husband are trying to get used to the idea that it might be time for IVF. They are a bit reluctant for financial reasons as well as other reasons. It seems like an easy decision to make -- until you or someone you know is facing it. I think that's the biggest struggle with TTC. No one, not even one's own mother, can know what it's like unless they have been there themselves. And, you're so right. It's all exhausting. Lauren ♥ On Fecund Thoughthttp://onfecundthought.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4181203705533916900.post-18168050867853609542013-04-09T14:36:19.033-07:002013-04-09T14:36:19.033-07:00Jump on the IVF train! Honestly, I was the same w...Jump on the IVF train! Honestly, I was the same way. I didn't want to put drugs into my system to conceive a baby- I don't even like taking Advil! Surprisingly, IVF has been much easier than I thought it was going to be and as you know, we were lucky to get a good result on our first try.<br /><br />Non Sequitur Chicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07268138421234170972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4181203705533916900.post-74710964135058856392013-04-09T11:08:49.319-07:002013-04-09T11:08:49.319-07:00I was in total denial that we would need medical i...I was in total denial that we would need medical intervention. We were TTC for 2 years before I even saw an RE for testing. I did not want to believe we were headed down that path.<br />I am sorry that IVF appears to be on the horizon, but if it gets you what you want then it's all worth it. And it is nice to feel like you are moving forward.JenShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00056681492831041470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4181203705533916900.post-19700450247744651742013-04-09T07:43:01.542-07:002013-04-09T07:43:01.542-07:00I'm sorry to hear that the IVF club has anothe...I'm sorry to hear that the IVF club has another member. I wish none of us needed it! I really hope it brings you the answers you seek. Plus, what a bonus that your insurance covers it! Gypsy Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13026496787029080243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4181203705533916900.post-70133931563368239852013-04-09T05:05:41.538-07:002013-04-09T05:05:41.538-07:00Thank you so much Amanda. What you describe is me ...Thank you so much Amanda. What you describe is me EXACTLY. Although I think maybe I consciously came to terms with the fertility stuff earlier than my husband, it's a big leap between that and being prepared, knowing what to do about it. <br /><br />Like you, I have always been very wary about the artificial use of hormones and like you, I even avoided the pill. I'm still nervous about the implications of it (not only for myself, but more broadly and for the environment, etc). Considering these treatment options are not something I'd do lightly. But right now, my desire to keep fighting for the future we want outweighs those concerns. <br /><br />The main thing is that we're talking about it and agreeing on what steps to take next, and that already brings some sense of calm and purpose. Now let's see what the future has in store for us.Sadiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14325203869605294768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4181203705533916900.post-37171713741746154002013-04-09T02:26:41.623-07:002013-04-09T02:26:41.623-07:00Just take it easy. Go with the flow, but continue ...Just take it easy. Go with the flow, but continue forward, doing what you can, which is what you are doing. I am crossing my fingers that something (maybe IVF) will work soon. <br /><br />And this: "H had trouble with the idea of any kind of major intervention. He admitted himself that it was a kind of protective denial of the reality of our situation" is exactly how I felt. <br /><br />Just before starting IUI, realizing that we would *need medical help* to conceive was very, very hard for me. I fought it with all my energy and soul. It was a strategy I think, to make myself believe that *this* was not happening to us. That it was just a matter of waiting a bit longer for it to naturally happen. I had always been against using hormones, any kind. Which is why I never ever used the pill as contraception. I was afraid of how the hormones might affect my body, disbalance my cycles, and also of the emotional effects associated with it. <a href="http://poppiesandicecream.blogspot.nl/2012/10/jumping-into-unknown.html" rel="nofollow">I was scared to death. And then we jumped.</a> And it's not all that bad (luckily I do not get ANY side effects from the follitotropin, HCG or progesterone stimulation, except, for maybe, mild tiredness). <br /><br />Now, if it turns out that we will need IVF too (we have 1 more IUI to go, if that does not work... they will transfer us for IVF) I am ok with it. Of course I would much rather prefer to get pregnant with a less invasive procedure (I think anyone wants that) but at this point I'm just like: "Science, bring it on". And I feel infinitely blessed and lucky that the health insurance system here (a mix of private and subsidized) covers fertility treatments. <br /><br />Sending you all the best wishes and thinking of you. Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02424374017675047414noreply@blogger.com